Children and Divorce
In the year 2000, it was recorded that more than 15 million children in the United States experienced that their parents had taken divorce. It must be noted that children like these face multiple losses in life. The children of divorced parents lose their nuclear family and have to cope with abandonment. Some of these feel that their childhood has been lost. They have to carry the burden of economic and physical responsibilities to support a single parent.
It has been observed that divorced parents rest their fragile egos on their children and consequently these children lose their peers. A section of these children believe that they are the original cause of divorce. They struggle with these thoughts and lose their self esteem. Moreover, they sense that it is their obligation to bring everything back on the correct track. As these plans are based on wrong assumptions, the plans rarely succeed and this increases the children’s feeling of failure.
Children of divorce desire the following from their divorced parents.
- The parents should be a part of the child’s life. The child expects daddy and mummy to raise the child, teach the child what is important and assist the child when it has problems
- When parent 1 talks regarding parent 2 with the child, the child expects parent 1 to speak only nice things about parent 2 or not speak anything at all. If parent 1 says unkind and mean things about parent 2, the child feels that parent 1 is expecting the child to take parent 1’s side
- The child expects each parent to communicate directly with the other parent. The child is reluctant to send messages between the two
- The child wishes to enjoy the time spent with each parent and during it love the parent. During this time, the parent should support the child. If the parent displays frustration or jealousy, the child concludes that he / she should take side of one of the parent and love one of them more than the other
- The parents should not fight regarding issues concerning the child in front of the child. If they do so, the child feels that he / she has done something wrong and develops a guilty feeling
- If the parents don’t get themselves involved with the child, the child feels he / she is not important and the parents do not love him / her. So, the parents should ask the child several questions, make phone calls and write letters
Here are some topics associated with children and divorce:
- Adult Children and Divorce - Several facts regarding Adult Children of Divorce (ACOD) and some recommendations for them can be viewed
- Effects of Divorce on Children - How are children of different age groups affected by divorce? Some common effects of divorce on children are noted
- Young Children and Divorce - Tips for parents, behavioral facts, psychotherapy regarding young children of divorce are listed. How parents should talk with such young children has been briefed
- Divorce and Children Custody - The various varieties of custody and the factors considered while allocating custody have been described
- Divorce and Small Children - How infants, toddlers and preschool children react to divorce has been given along with some general tips
- Divorce and Teenage Children - The manner of addressing teenage children impacted by their parents divorce has been discussed
- Children and Divorce Facts - Certain statistics have been put down followed by reaction by children to divorce
- Children and Divorce Questions - Examples of four varieties have been disclosed: how divorce affects personal life, those asked to a departing parent, those that arise due to worry and asked by parents to counselors
- Children of Divorced Parents - Initial reactions and latter reactions of preschool, elementary school and adolescent children are revealed. Some riveting facts can be browsed
- Children and Divorce Intervention Program - The aims, procedure, summary, sessions and accolades of CODIP are described
- Uncontested Divorce with Children - Documents to be filed at various stages and the methods of service to be followed are mentioned
- Christian Divorce Children - The significance of the Fourth Commandment and the Biblical Story of Exile are referred to. The steps that churches take for children of divorce have been enumerated
- Quotes on Divorce and Children - What children, step children and laymen say about children and divorce
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