Divorce Mother Custody

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It has been estimated that in the days to come in the United States, approximately 50 percent of all children would have to reside in a single parent family for some part of their lives. Almost 90 percent of these children would have their mothers as their custodian.

In child custody conflicts, the courts follow the following 4 general rules.

• The custody of a young child must be given to his/her mother
• The custodian of a girl should be her mother. The custodian of a boy should be his father, if this boy is no longer in need of his mother's continuous care
• In case the child is of such an age that he/she can form an intelligent preference, then this child's choice regarding his/her custodian is considered
• The non custodial parent is offered rights of visitation. However, if the visitation results in grave physical or emotional harm to the child, it may be denied

A study was conducted of 150+ mothers who had custody of children aged 8 to 12. At the end of 5 months of experiencing child custody, the following results were obtained.

• Those mothers who had some social and family support did not think it essential to seek new support
• Those mothers who lacked social and family support felt its need. Thus, it can be concluded that in the post divorce period, a mother should do the following to confirm that she does not become lonely or isolated
  • Maintain friendships
  • Build social support
  • Ascertain that she is having some adult conversation in person or on the phone
• During the post divorce period, a mother should concentrate on her emotional strength and adjustment. Let us assume that a mother spends 60 minutes at a gym away from her children. This would benefit her in the following manner
  • Retaining the essential patience
  • Feeling more energetic and robust
  • Working out frustrations
• If a mother has a consistent disciplined routine, she develops more active and less avoiding coping strategies. She is more efficient in the following
  • Organizing the resources
  • Acknowledging potentially grave child problems
  • Reacting fast to lessen or solve the above problems

A mother is given the following rights in child custody

• Interacting with the child during the time slot ordered by the court. This comprises of and is not limited to scheduling activities and games with the child
• Freedom from any impositions, threats and control from the father
• Informing the police if the father denies visitation hours
• Procuring an injunction from the court that prevents the father from moving the child out of state

• Behaving immaturely
• Abusing alcohol and drugs
• Recklessness
• Disrespecting the law

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