Post Divorce Support

When a person is granted a divorce, the person usually experiences that all his / her friends are gradually deserting him / her. Some of the usual reasons for such a desertion are as follows.

• In their perspective, you are a threat
• You are no longer someone filled with fun
• They belong to the couples-only club
• They don't wish to take sides
• They are scared of you

In such circumstances, the person must rebuild post divorce support.

Some avenues for Post Divorce Support

Not only must one find new friends, but must also reconnect to old ones. Building up a good connection with all such friends makes one feel less alone. With the passage of time, you can build a new social network and this rapport would assist you post divorce. In the methods described below, the term "friends" implies old as well as new ones.

• It is recommended to joint a support group or visit a therapist after divorce. One should understand that this would lighten the burden of losing friends. A renowned CEO has remarked that after divorce the mood of a person is let down for some time. The best solution is to avail professional counseling. Post counseling, the person has better energy to offer to the friends

• While talking with friends, you must tell them that they are free to retain friendship with your ex. You should never point of errors of your ex in front of the friends. Moreover, do not ask for present information about the ex with the friends. Find out other topics that can be discussed with the friends

• You must try a phone call or email exchange with some family members with whom you have not spoken for some time. This will certainly decrease your solitude

• You must try to begin new relations with single people around

• You should participate in acts that interest you and comprise of interaction with other people. Some examples of these acts are doing volunteering, taking an exercise class, attending a wine tasting or joining a knitting club. A precept should be followed that at each event you must approach and talk with at least 3 new individuals. This would result in a broadening of your social circle

• If you reach a conclusion that a particular person would not remain as a friend with you, you should not take the friend's attitude personally, but move on with your life. While moving on, hint the friends that you are available for them and invite them to call you. Then, leave the next step to them. Some of the friends might reject you. In this case, speak with them how you feel of the rejection and assure them that you are not a threat to them. If they were true friends and emotionally intelligent, they would retain companionship with you

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