Parent Alienation in Divorce
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Parent Alienation is caused by the following 3 types of alienators.
- Naive Alienators: All parents are intermittently of this type. They are passive about the relationship of their children with the other parent. However, they infrequently say or do something to alienate the children from the other parent
- Active Alienators: The behavior of such parents is marked by extreme anger or hurt. This results in them impulsively losing control over their demeanor or speech. At a later stage, they experience guilt over what they said or how they behaved
- Obsessed Alienators: These parents have a fervent reason to demolish the targeted parent
Parent Alienation in Divorce associated Risk Factors
When a divorce takes place, if the following factors exist, there is a risk of parental alienation.
- The children deny to visit the non custodial parent
- One parent begins interference regarding the number of phone calls between the other parent and the child, although this number is reasonable
- Either parent develops a severe mental disorder
- Drug or alcohol abuse
- Suggestions of mental, physical and/or sexual abuse
- One parent threatens that the other parent would never see the children again
- Any parent terrorizes to kidnap the children
- Presence of very controlling and intrusive step-parents and grandparents
- Non control over anger by either parent, particularly in the presence of the children
- After visitation hours, children are not returned as per schedule frequently (generally, later than 30 minutes)
- The visitation schedule is withheld
Manifestation of Parent Alienation in Divorce
A child displays the following symptoms if he/she feels parent alienation.
- The child might look similar to a normal and healthy child. However, when this child is interrogated about the targeted parent, this topic triggers the child's hatred
- The hatred of the child towards the targeted parent is an obsession. The child expands this hatred to the extended family of the targeted parent. The child does not have any remorse or guilt regarding this expansion
- The child and the obsessed alienator form a team. Both of them aim to malign the targeted parent
- The child is not capable of forgiving any past parenting mistakes or indiscretions
- The child does not experience any guilt regarding his/her behavior towards the targeted parent
- The child is not ambivalent. He/She lacks the capacity to view the goodness of the targeted parent. He/She simply has complete hatred for this parent
- It is often observed that the child did not have any negative experiences with the targeted parent. The reasons that the child has against the targeted parent have been communicated to the child by the obsessed alienator. The child cannot differentiate between these two topics
- The child is not afraid of the court
- The beliefs that the child states are often irrational and delusional
- The child denies to spend time or visit the targeted parent
- The child possesses unyielding hatred against the targeted parent
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